Yes, it’s O.K. to Say “I Don’t Know”
We live in an interesting time where we are expected to — or at least feel — that we should have an answer for any situation or question. This idea is prevalent in our society, especially within politics and the workplace. If you are someone that uses social media, find a controversial post and read the comments under it; everyone always seems to have an answer for everything. Reading threads like that can be exhausting, particularly because there usually isn’t much substance to the discussion or argument. Both parties are trying to play a game of “gotcha,” instead of “let’s talk about that idea.” There is honor and integrity in letting the other person(s) know that maybe you don’t know much about a topic and would like to expand upon their ideas and find areas that you agree and disagree with.
When you are discussing a topic with someone, do you really know what you are talking about, or are you creating the illusion that you know what you are talking about? There are various reasons that people have the urge to create this self-illusion and pretend they are knowledgable about everything…this could include: the desire to be a strong leader that always has the answers, seeking a temporary satisfaction of being smarter than someone else, or the desire to simply “win” or “1-up” someone. These are natural human instincts as we are continually craving validation and compliments from others. It may not be as attractive or get you as many “likes” online, but the power of saying “I don’t know” when you are expected to have an answer is beneficial for you and whomever you are talking to.
Often, we trade factual information and the opportunity to come to a better conclusion for the convenience and applause that comes with having a quick answer. It is better to admit to not knowing something and working with others to come to an integrative and better conclusion than to operate under a false premise because your pride didn’t allow you to forfeit the chance to act like you know what you’re talking about — even at the expense of being correct. This is a real risk that comes with assuming you know. Again, it isn’t easy to make this admission of not knowing…if you are able to improve at this, you will be perceived as a better leader that is more willing to set aside pride and work with your peers to come to the best conclusion. There is great power to saying “I don’t know,” and it takes mental strength and humility to say it…especially in stressful situations like work and politics. Hopefully we can understand the value of those 3 words and work toward using it more.
